What is a Trine? A trine is a “threefold, triple, triad, or group of three.”
How can it help me create change and get ‘unstuck?’ This concept of ‘three steps towards powerful perspective’ can work for various scenario’s to help you create impactful change in your life.
When we explore possibilities outside one or two potential options, and the possibility for a third --more productive -- option becomes integrated as our new processing tool, we are able to identify resources and solutions more quickly and effectively in our lives. In using the Trine Triangle that I’ve developed as success coach, you can access this powerful tool to become more empowered in your decision making and generate more opportunity in your life.
They open up our ability to see through a tertiary (less biased or limited) lens
They give us a sense of balance and heightened awareness around a certain idea
They help move us toward SUCCESS
How can you - starting today -- use trines to increase prosperity in your life or business?
It’s all about using the appropriate trine that fits the desired outcome.
Use trines to:
Identify new, fresh and innovative opportunities for yourself
Create personal and professional achievements aligned with your values
Grow yourself and develop skills for change
Take the power back!
Trine Triangle- A 3-part process towards success.
Trine one- Defining Your Level of Satisfaction: The first part the trine for success is defining whether or not you're in a rut. Are you happy? Do you feel like you are growing and prospering? Are you using your skills and doing what you love? Are you working towards your dreams and goals?
If you answered ‘no’ to any of the above, are you willing to do something about it? On a scale of 1-10 (1- lowest, 10- highest), how do you feel today in terms of your level of satisfaction in life?
Now, once you know where you stand in your path, use the scale of 1-10 to determine much you want to be happy, to grow, to prosper, to do what you love and achieve your dreams. Go ahead. Be honest with yourself.
Being stuck often means we feel as if we lack options or resources to create the necessary change we need in our lives to move forward. We often feel in conflict with our lives or those around us because it’s a constant push-and-pull battle to make it through each day or week.
Sometimes, that stuckness can feel like quicksand, pulling us farther and farther away from even knowing what makes us happy and how to get there. We feel as if no matter what we do, we may never be able to get ahead. This happens in our finances, in our careers, and even in our relationship with others.
This mentality is limiting, because our ‘stuckness’ gets in the way of seeing clarity and options available. Change starts with acknowledging that we are stuck, and then it takes the confidence to know that we deserve and want more out of life. That we are not going to put up with just ‘going through the motions.’
Instead, we’ll forge a new path toward our future, which starts with being present enough today to realize that we are, indeed, stuck.
Once we are able to realize this powerful revelation, we’re able to move to the second phase of the powerful success trine: Defining ways to get ‘unstuck.’
In coaching we call this an action plan. This requires thoughtful, and meticulous planning. he actions that got us stuck in the first place may still cloud our judgment of the possibilities that could be.. Thus, we need to identify what ideas, thoughts and reactions could hold us back from seeing all of the options we have available to us in the moment.
What are you afraid of? What do you think was the catalyst to making you feel stuck? What do you think or feel about the change you’re hoping to create? Does trying something new scare you? Do you worry that if you try something new, it might not work (like is has in the past)?
Trine two-“Getting unstuck” is about becoming more aware of the limiting beliefs you have about living your happiest life. It’s about identifying your beliefs about why you cannot or should not or won’t be able to have it. It’s about realizing that those limitations were created by you. Hence, the only way to get unstuck is to believe that getting unstuck is even possible.
Have you ever gotten unstuck before? What did you do? What you could do from that experience to get you unstuck today?
What things do you do well? Are any of your unique skills a great resource to use to help you get unstuck? If so, what action is necessary to do so?
What resources or people around you have that can help support you to get unstuck? Who has the tools or means to help you break free from your patterns, and help you achieve something new? Who can you talk to (and if it’s no one today) who can you meet to help?
Getting unstuck is realizing and seeing the potential available to you. Whether it’s people, actions, perspective, physical tools… whatever you have available to you in terms of support and power, you can use to help realize that the potential lies in your ability to see the potential in the first place.
What will it take to fire you up enough to find new resources and create a plan to help you move ahead? For some, it’s ‘hitting rock bottom.’ For others, it's the tiredness of feeling ‘unhappy.’ Or maybe one day you’ll wake up and say, “Today is the day!”
No matter how you find the strength and power, know that getting unstuck is all about seeing the potential in abundance, and knowing that there is a world out there that is available to help you get there. You just need to know who to ask, and realize the answers are inside you. You might just have to dig deep to find them.
Trine three-Commit to a plan. Now that you have built up your arsenal of ideas and tools for change, you need to build a plan and hold yourself accountable.
Some people put their weekly goals or commitments into a calendar each week. Some have a partner that they ask to hold them accountable to their goals. Whatever works for you, make sure that you are committed and creating accountability to start the cycle of change, and keep looking and chipping away towards your end goal.
Here’s an example:
Trine One of Success: I am committed to getting out of debt. I don't want this burden anymore.
Trine Two of Success: I am going to start putting more of my paycheck into my credit card bills each month (and maybe less splurges), but my friends can come over and hang at the house!
Trine Three of Success : “Hey Suzie, instead of dinner and drinks out for the next few months, let’s host dinners at one another's houses instead. Can you hold me accountable?”
Also, you can write the amount of money you intend to pay of your card each month to get the debt down and write it on your calendar when the card is due! #doublelifehack
Seeing success in life through three easy steps or in “trines” is an easy coaching tool that I share with my clients every day. Remember to follow this checklist:
Step 1: Acknowledgement -Where am I today and what do I really want?
Step 2: Defining Your Resources and Tools - What do I have at my disposal? What do I need to try to do?
Step 3: Roadmap and Accountability- What will it take to get there and who (or what) can hold me accountable?
Now, you have a powerful trine to get you where you want to go tomorrow and everyday.
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